BBpress integrated in Wordpress mu

Currently I have multiple blogs running over SSL using Wordpress mu 2.8.1. What I need is the installation of BBpress, integrated with my current blogs/installation. The bigger picture: I work as a psychologist. All of my clients have a personal blog. Some of these clients should get access to a forum (BBpress). Features: -Access to BBpress should be on a registered users only basis. Login/password should be required to have access to the forum. -Admins should be able to manually add users to the forum by simply adding the username. These users can be added from the WP mu database. Some of the blog users get access to the forum, others don’t. -Users that are granted access to both WP and BBpress and who are logged in on either one of them should automatically have access to the other (hence ‘integrated’). Same thing when logging out. -BBpress, both frontend and backend, should run over SSL (same domain/certificate as WP mu). - My WP-blogs use an adapted version of the Kubrick-theme. No need to have a completely identical layout but at least the header should be the same. -I need a backup/restore database function. -Typical forum options: ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? -new posts/comments/topics indicator in forum ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? -quote and reply function ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? -e-mail of user may not be visible to other users. The above features are crucial to me. If one of these is not working, the forum would become useless to me. -Extra useful forum options (not vital but still important): ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? -The option to have an e-mail notification sent to a selected moderator when new posts/comments are being sent by users. ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? -private messaging ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? -users online list ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? -wysiwyg-editor ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? ? -emoticons